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When anyone begins training as a therapist or counsellor, they will learn about the need for three core conditions: unconditional positive regard, congruence and empathy. These were espoused by Carl Rogers who created person-centred therapy. Superficially obvious, but compelling. I am a huge advocate of these, but over the years I have come to value one above all: congruence.

 

Congruence means being real. In therapy, I bring myself to the table in service of you. I will: give you my all; be open and honest; not afraid to challenge when necessary; and be there for you. Of course, the latter incorporates empathy and unconditional positive regard, but the point is I aim to foster mutual trust, respect and safety by being myself- being real.

 

I honestly believe people can sense insincerity a mile off whether they are consciously or subconsciously aware of this. When working therapeutically this is even more so. When working therapeutically on something as important and as profound as problematic bereavement it becomes paramount to sift this out. It is important to have a genuine relationship in therapy handled with care and professionalism.

 

Whilst bringing these core conditions to the therapeutic table is all well and good, I also take great pride in my work. I am unashamedly a nerd when it comes to offering meticulous evidence-based practice. I am fascinated by the relatively recent theoretical development of evidence-based grief therapy; by the increasing role of neuroscience in wellbeing; and how soulful and spiritual purpose find home in the context of therapy even for those of no faith. Expect regular updates on this site’s blog offering more information which you may choose to or not to explore!

 

In essence, however, therapy is about finding the right match for you. Hopefully the above gives you some indication of me and who I am and how I present myself professionally. Ultimately, the most important person is you and finding the right fit for your needs and personality to ensure you have the best chance for recovery. If the above fits the bill for you- great, get in touch! If not, that’s fine, I wish you well and genuinely hope you find the best approach for your needs.